The REBIRTH

Hello to all my Lovies, OLD and NEW! I am so happy to be here on my old stomping grounds, the Love, The Undoing BlogSpot! You will be able to keep up with me and what I have been doing with all my newly found freedom.

Life has changed drastically since my last post and if you have followed me at the Daily Feels, you know this!

If not, stop on by there to check out some of what I had to say over the last two years!

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Thank you for all the love and support and I hope to see you in the comments soon!

FIRST BLOG, TONIGHT!

2017 Lesson

I always like to take some time to reflect on the last 365 days on New Year’s Day. This year was the year of lessons learned by watching my friends and loved ones. I will be the first to admit that when I was a child, I needed to touch the stove to realize it was hot, regardless of how many times I was warned by my mom. These days, I watch the things happening around me closely. I think before speaking and acting. I try to make choices consciously. I manage my time, money and energy in a way that will leave me feeling better – not worse.

I have listened to people I care about cry, over and over, “why does this happen to me”? when none of what is happening to them is random. These are bright people who have had the luxury of education and still they do not realize that what is happening to them is a direct effect of the cause. Yes, cause and effect.

A very simple explanation: Cause and effect is a relationship between events or things, where one is the result of the other or others. This is a combination of action and reaction. Cause and Effect

Living life consciously, you will find that there is a healthy way to think things through without overthinking. There is an energy that you put into the world when you rush things that says they aren’t worth the wait. There is a vibration of restlessness that we give off when we make rash decisions. I believe in fate, stars aligning perfectly and all of that, but it doesn’t excuse common sense.

So, thank you 2017 for giving me patience. I wish for all my loved ones to have patience and strength when making decisions.

 

BREAKING NEWS: I AM A GODDESS

alva-1I recently traveled to Miami with some of my closest friends for an all girls getaway. Knowing I was going down to my favorite home away from home for some much needed rest and relaxation, I wanted to treat myself to a massage or spa day. As many of you know, I am a “vibes gyal”. (TRANSLATION: I feed off the “vibes”  or emotional signals a person gives out to those around them with their body language and social interactions.) In 39 years, I have experienced many massages and therapeutic treatments that left me feeling drained and no better than when I walked in. I attribute much of my subpar “massages” to the fact that, my body (which is my temple), was having a very intimate and personal experience with someone who I didn’t know, someone who wasn’t on an equal or higher vibration as me and the energy they gave off was the “Lady, I’m just doing my job here” and that exhausted me physically and emotionally.

Practicing Yoga and Meditation, I have discovered how important “touch” is (notice I didn’t say HUMAN TOUCH? I think touching a leaf, a tree, your pets, salt water, etc… is just as important to a full life as human touch!) and how much better it feels when the touch comes from someone who loves you or welcomes you. Having grown up in a Latino community, I was always meeting people and being kissed and hugged by complete strangers. It never felt awkward or wrong, it was equivalent to a handshake. Nothing intimate or personal about it. Unless, you were walking into your best friends Cuban house and Abuela reached for you. That was the touch I wanted, the hug that melts people together, where you can feel their heartbeat, hear her shallow breaths and smell her home cooked food in the fabric of her clothes.

Ahhhh…

Anyway, that was what I was looking for, a meaningful experience.

Instead of just booking the cheapest or closest to where I was staying, I took to the inter-web in search of a professional who practiced and believed in healing energy. I used all the “keywords” that I thought would best describe my wants and desires!

So, with hopes of finding “the one” I logged onto Google and typed healing energy vibrational sound aromatherapy tantric spiritual yoga crystal meditation healers massage Miami Florida then hit SEARCH. I went through each result, one by one. I was determined enough to make it to the second page and there she was, Michelle Alva. I checked out her website, went onto her Instagram and Facebook pages and carefully examined her posts. I felt connected to her immediately, so I reached out.

Michelle Alva Website

Michelle reached out to me that night and we had what she referred to as a “discovery phone call” and discussed the parts of my life that could benefit from some fine tuning. This was the first time someone actually took the time to get to know me as a human and not a customer or client before a therapeutic treatment. It made all the difference in the world.

Last week, on a warm sunny day in Miami, I got ready and went to have my session with Michelle. I was greeted at the door with a huge smile and a hug. Just entering that sacred space brought me an overwhelming feeling of love. Surrounded by instruments, flowers, essential oils and fresh air. There was sunlight, crystals, a Buddha, Mandalas and all the wonderful beautiful adornments that hold special places in my heart.

We sipped tea and discussed the process. I trusted her with my temple. I had no pressure or expectations, just trust.

For two hours I lost myself in this room. I left behind everything that did not serve me. My heart was wide open. My body was treated with respect and care. There was such passion in her touch. Paying attention to all of me. I was adorned with rose petals, potent, fresh, red rose petals. I was covered in oils, the sound of drums vibrating through my body. Chanting words of praise for me, I was a GODDESS. I was breathing with intention, three deep breaths in, holding and releasing the unwanted. Naked, surrendering to it all. Chimes and bowls, ringing and singing.

I AM A GODDESS.

I AM A GODDESS.

Inside a session…

I am so grateful that everything aligned and I found Michelle Alva. This was proof that the Universe is listening.

If you are ever in the Miami area, Key Biscayne to be exact, check her out! She is a beautiful soul providing an amazing experience for the universe!

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Sixteen Years Ago I Became a MOM!

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I can remember it like it was yesterday, I was in a beautiful L&D suite at the Palisades Medical Center in North Bergen facing the New York City skyline. I had a clear view of Lady Liberty and a room full of family who were enjoying watching me for the third day in full blown labor. I had Days of Our Lives playing and it was suddenly interrupted with BREAKING NEWS about a paraglider who got caught in the arm of the statue, I SHIT YOU NOT!

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/dramatic-statue-of-liberty-rescue/

That’s neither here nor there…

Jerome, my boyfriend at the time (and baby daddy to be) went to McDonald’s with my sister because, you know, I was taking too long… I really wasn’t feeling well and I wanted this child out, so I hit that NURSE call button, for the 723rd time.

Finally a nice young nurse, who had just about enough of me crying and screaming in agony, took it upon herself to stick what looked like a knitting needle up my lady parts and break my water. She noticed that the baby’s heartbeat had slowed down significantly and she called for the doctor immediately.

After three days of sitting and waiting for the epic moment that I deliver their first child, niece, grandchild, and great grandchild, everyone watched as they wheeled me away into a surgical room for an emergency C-Section. So much for that beautiful scene when she comes out and everyone cries as she is placed on my chest. It went more like this…

I see the ceiling passing, I am crying “Call Rome and tell him and Tracey to COME BACK NOW” then I fall asleep, a few hours later I wake up to my mom and sister (one on each side of me) crying… I am shaking and confused, still very sleepy. I ask, “IS SHE THE BOMB?” and they laugh, Tracey replies, “She is THE BOMB” and I fall back asleep for what seemed like four more hours. Eventually, I wake up, it was dark out, the room was empty except for 2 people, Jerome and a beautiful little baby. My baby, that I was seeing for the very first time.  WHAT A DAY!

I finally got to hold her, she was so small and beautiful. Healthy and perfect in every single way. I was emotional, happy, scared – EVERY emotion possible – I felt it in that moment!

So, here we are, she just celebrated her 16th Birthday. I made a collage of her life with over 200 pictures that I gathered from the last 16 years and as I cut and paste each one I cried. It seems impossible that 16 years have passed us already. She is now a little woman. I am more than proud of her. She is a respectful and loving human who just wants to enjoy life and make the most of each moment. She has been the best blessing and I wish her all the happiness in the WORLD!

Thank you all who have been a part of helping to mold her and show her the way. It takes a village and I am so glad you are part of our village!

Dee-Dee

 

STILL undone…

As some of you may know, my small business Love, The Undoing which was founded in 2013, hasn’t been active on social media in the last few months. The truth is, I am a firm believer in ENERGY. I believe that my art, holds my energy when I create. I believe when I create, I should be in a good spiritual place. I want the people who wear my bracelets to know that when it was created, my heart was IN IT… I always made sure my surroundings were clean and clear of chaos. I would burn white sage, sometimes I would meditate before creating. It was a process that I enjoyed and one that I knew my “Lovies” felt when they slid on their beads…

So, what is my “excuse”… I don’t have one… I have an honest answer to those of you have so lovingly asked me if I was done with LTU… I AM NOT… The store is still open (thank you to those who still loyally order!) and when I am in the right place to create with the energy that everyone deserves, I will create! The items that I list now were already made, or re-lists of unsold items.

So what have I been doing with my energy. I promise you it hasn’t been wasted! When I created my vision board in January, I was committed to becoming more socially active and take this time with my daughter as a times we can look back at as life lessons and love shared.

Having said that, I have devoted a lot of time to my family. (Having a teenage daughter has been so emotional!)

I have been participating in things that feel right – RIGHT NOW. I marched with the WOMEN and I protested and sat in on meetings with NJ11thForChange. But, most importantly I have become a citizen with a voice! I have been very active in reaching out to our representatives on many issues that I am passionate about. I have gone to some great “town-hall” meetings around my state and met some amazing, passionate people who have shown me the ropes of this messy game of politics. I have learned of ways to help protect things that I hold dear, like women’s rights, and have worked to further protect some of the issues that matter most to me! Some of my favorite groups are Just Leadership USA which works on reforming the criminal justice system and specifically to #CLOSERIKERS. How to help #CloseRikers

NAMI which works to raise awareness for Mental Health issues and funds resources for the mentally ill and their caregivers! Explore NAMI

I have ALSO become a BIG SISTER through Big Brothers Big Sisters of Northern NJ! This has been a process and it required a little work on my end because of the importance of this “job” but knowing the lives you may impact in the end makes it so WORTH IT! Check it out and see if you are ready to be a BIG!!! Check it out!!!

I can finally publically say that I am a vegetarian (almost VEGAN, DAMN YOU CHEESE!) for my own reasons that I wouldn’t push on anyone else… But, that in itself was empowering! For a long time, I was conflicted with telling people. It was such a personal (long) journey that I wanted to be sure I was confident before I shared it with others. I was still holding on to poultry as my “meat” but, gave that up last year and the rest is history!

All in all, it has been a very emotional year so far, to set aside something I love so much, but I felt that I had to take some time off to actually ACT on the change I want to see in the world!

I am sure it is no secret to you all that a fire has been ignited inside me and I need to follow my heart… As I would encourage any of you to do as well! I will be back at it soon, but for now, I am staying the course and seeing this through!!!

 

 

#DAYWITHOUTWOMEN


I know, the March wasn’t YOUR March and #DayWithoutWomen isn’t your DAY. Good for you! If you are a true American, you recognize the beauty of peaceful protest, equally I support YOUR RIGHT to protest my protest! I just ask that, before voicing your opinion you take a brief look in our HISTORY. It is simple, EVERY major social movement has faced some form of protest. (think abolitionist, suffragette and Civil Rights movements – to highlight a few!) So, please spare ME your rhetoric about today NOT being your day to stand in solidarity with women.

When I was a student learning about Women’s Rights Activists, I always imagined that, had I been there in those times I too would have participated. Who would have thought that in 2017 I would have the chance to stand with millions of women in solidarity!

I think of Susan B. Anthony, in 1872, walking to a barber shop demanding to be registered to vote and forcing the Supreme Court to acknowledge the 14th Amendment be extended to women. It wasn’t an easy fight for her and her followers, they had their share of “It’s NOT MY MARCH” people as well. They faced jail time, fines, trials for “illegal voting” and were considered criminals for wanting equality – 145 years ago! Susan B. Anthony wasn’t even allowed to speak in her own defense inside the court house, simply because she was a woman. I have women like S.B. Anthony to thank for the RIGHT to walk into a Middle School in Pompton Lakes, New Jersey, and cast my vote on November 8, 2016.

Some of my favorite chapters in history books center around strong women who have fought for our rights, whether it is our reproductive rights, fair treatment in the workplace, our right to vote, the right to obtain an equal education to our male counterparts, our right to own property OR EVEN KEEP OUR PAYCHECKS!

Much of the confusion surrounding these organized marches and protests is the motive or hopeful outcome. I can only speak for myself when I say that my motives are to help bring attention to matters that are important to ME!

So, I understand that #DayWithoutWomen may not be YOUR thing, and that is fine, but it is also International Women’s Day and it is WOMENS MONTH, and this “thing” is MY THING. I wholeheartedly believe, regardless if you stand with us or against us, you will somehow benefit from our activism and actions in the long run.

I wish for everyone to feel the great sense of community and solidarity that I feel when I participate in these “marches” and organized movements. It is a reminder that we didn’t get this far being silent.

 

Have a GREAT day LADIES!

 

Soul Sisters

Today I’m reflecting on a person who came into my life just a few years ago. Some people you know your entire life and still manage to feel like you barely connect, this happens with friends and family. Then, there’s the people who you come across that just ignite your spirit. They feel like an old friend from hello. These are the people to cherish. 

Today. My soul sister is starting a new journey in her life. I’m proud and I’m in awe of her resilience. Despite an already busy life, she set aside time to do something to better herself and those around her and that’s something we can all afford to do at some point.

My heart is connected to hers – somehow. I know she can feel my joy and support although I am miles away. 

Today, I’m meditating in honor of her and this new beginning. 

Congratulations A.U.